Post #158 - If You're Planning A Party - Please Let Me Know!

Regular readers may recall a previous reference to my maternal great aunt, or as I dubbed her The Home Counties Methuselah?  She's due to turn ninety in March and her son, who's in his sixties, is planning a birthday bash.  He wrote this in the Christmas Card to MotherLogic, but we weren't treated to this information.

There's a bit of background here: https://faspie.blogspot.com/2017/04/post-97-my-mother.html so I don't need to elaborate too much.  I'd only bore myself by doing that anyway.

If a big event is due to occur in March, wouldn't you have issued the invitations by now?  It's the end of January for goodness sake! If not, why not tell everyone that it's not happening?  It's flimsy nebulous thinking like this which irritates me about certain members of the allistic/nypical/neurotypical community.  I asked MotherLogic last night, but she didn't seem to know either, believing that it would go ahead.  Will it indeed?  If so, I don't think that I'll be joining the party.  So there!  I'll merely go off and sulk in front of my television.

I used to find it hard to socialise with MotherLogic's cousin and his partner anyway.  In the days before I knew that I was autistic, LogicTowers used to host family get togethers, mainly because it boasts ha - a lovely estate agent term - can you imagine a group of semi-detached houses meeting up in the pub and playing a game of one upmanship?) much more reception space than MotherLogic's abode and that we maintain a good level of cleanliness and tidiness here.  That last statement sounds bitchy, but it is brutally accurate.  As ever, I digress - quite frankly, CousinLogic and his partner are a bit too intellectual for my tastes anyway - think BBC Radio 3 and obscure art galleries and you'll get the picture.  His partner is also a very highly strung woman and that always makes my poor noggin hurt.

*Update*

We received an invitation through the Great British postal system today and I've accepted on behalf of me, MrLogic, MasterLogic plus the two parental Logics.  It did adhere to the six week invitation etiquette. 

Post #78: Expectations Of Socialising

I wrote this Tweet this morning:

It pertains to the way I feel about socialising; ergo - I just cannot do it any more. Saying that, it'll save me money in the long term. My preferred company seems to be geeky blokes these days.

Post #33 - Christmas For Aspies

Like many Aspies I find dealing with Christmas to be problematic.  I think that it's the expectation that women have to deal with an awful lot of stuff and provide a welcoming atmosphere for their family and guests.  I won't got into huge amounts of detail about my own situation, but in a nutshell, I have a neurotypical younger brother who refuses to host Christmas at his house, choosing to work instead.  This means that myself, husband and son tend to be hospitable whilst he swans off and earns double overtime at our expense.  Don't get me wrong, I really appreciate my parents, but I can become easily resentful about this situation.  I am currently upstairs escaping it all.

Next year it's just us three and no bloody turkey.  I don't mind the bird itself, but it's the whole rigmarole of everything else.

Post #28 - Dealing With Socialising

Even autism/Asperger specific events are difficult.  It's incredibly hard ......